This title reminded me of one of my mother’s favorite pieces of advice. Although I’ve spoken in many healthcare facilities across the US, I recently had the privilege of presenting a unique program for a hospital’s annual luncheon. The guests of honor were women living with cancer. When I got the phone call I asked the event planner, “You do know that I’m an inspirational humorist and not a medical expert, right?”

“Absolutely! That’s why we want you! Laughter is one of the best medicines we have. And these wonderful women need to hear you!”

Walking into the room that day, I wasn’t sure what to expect. What I saw and heard were animated conversations and laughter from women who were obviously delighted to connect with old friends, make new ones and celebrate the joy of being together again. As I walked around to introduce myself, I heard bits and pieces of conversations. Were they talking about their treatments, side effects, struggles and daily challenges? Nope, not by a long shot. They were sharing stories about their children and grandchildren, their recent travels, and other positive news. Many wore wigs. Two women wore hats complete with flowers, feathers and miniature blinking lights. Over the next several hours I never heard one complaint – only positive girl-talk.

After my presentation many came up to thank me for the gift of my humor and stories. As I accepted their words of gratitude I was acutely aware that it was I who owed THEM thanks. Their positive spirit was truly an inspiration for this inspirational humorist. At lunch after the program, hearing their stories reinforced the message I always share with women at my retreats and church programs. We all face challenges every day. Some are easy and others are difficult. Some are simple and others are mind-boggling. Instead of whining or complaining while we wait for someone else to fix our problems, we have to get involved. No matter what challenges we face and what obstacles are in our way, we have to give it – whatever it is – our best shot.

Getting help from others is always a blessing and sometimes the right thing – the best thing – to do is to ask for help. But we also have to take proactive steps to help ourselves. We all face many challenges – physical, financial, mental, emotional and spiritual. We all have to fight different kinds of battles – of the body, the mind, the heart, the spirit and the soul.

In order to do that, we have to do more than “hope for the best.” Now hope is not a bad thing! It’s good! But my Thesaurus defines hope as “to trust, anticipate, wish, dream, and look forward to.” Did you notice that none of those are active verbs? Take a moment to let that sink in. What challenges are you struggling with today? What proactive steps can you take… what can you do… to handle your challenges with wisdom, courage, confidence and grace?

And if you belong to a women’s group that needs some encouragement and inspiration, let’s talk! Email jean@jeangatz.com or call me, 225-907-4138.

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